A wise man once wrote that civilizations are built by men with families to feed. This is the story of Helpmeet Singles.

In 2018—after colliding with a woke, feminist faction in his church—Pastor Brandon Durham found himself unemployed, with his wife battling severe chronic illness.  Then came the lockdowns.  With churches closed and medical bills mounting, Brandon decided to take his 10+ years of experience in on-line dating to bring the church a resource that would help address the marriage crisis. 

So, with virtually no budget or entrepreneurial experience, Brandon pieced together a marketing website, podcast, and promo video—and put it out there.  As G.K. Chesterton said, “Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.” Helpmeet Singles never would have happened if Brandon hadn’t dared to be embarrassingly bad at first. 

In God’s providence, Brandon’s bootleg promo video went viral. The New York Post, along with Relevant Magazine reported on it—framing our Christian marriage project as a laughingstock.  Everyone from John Piper’s son to the founder of Veggie Tales roasted us and ranted about our counter-cultural convictions.   

Overnight, our project became a byword to all the right people.  You couldn’t have asked for a better endorsement. The pile-on of snooty derision sealed Helpmeet Singles (then Dominion Dating) as the legit antithesis to everything woke “Big Eva” stands for.  

This newfound notoriety proved to be a double-edged sword. It was great for marketing, but Pastor Brandon was just two weeks into a new pastorate and being defamed in the national press came at a great personal cost.  Ironically, the very project Brandon started to provide for his family, ended up killing his ministry and costing him his livelihood. 

Eventually, Bnonn Tennant (co-author of It’s Good To Be A Man) and Kevin VanGelder joined the team and carried our project across the finish line. Tremendous sacrifices of time, money, energy, and reputation have been made to make Helpmeet Singles a reality.  It’s truly been a labor of love.  Our prayer is that Helpmeet Singles will be used by God to unite many godly singles and fuel a marriage reformation!

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